Anal Burn

I just tried anal with my boyfriend. It took some convincing, but I’m totally into it now and want to do it with him.  When we did it though, I got a burning sensation down there, which was quite uncomfortable.  Is it because we’re using the wrong lube, or is it doing damage to me?

Sammy, CT, 22

Hi Sammy,

I am not a medical professional, so it’s hard to say what might be going on, however, what you are describing doesn’t sound particularly ‘surprising’ for your first time.

Anal sex often requires preparation, especially for the newbie. There is also a possibility you could have an allergy to the lube you were using. Take your time. There is a possibility you got an anal fissure (or tear) during your first time, which will burn until it heals. My recommendation would be to go slow – work up to it, and use anal toys to make you relax in that area before he penetrates you.

Anal can be such a fantastic experience, but if you push yourself beyond your limits and are in pain – you’ll be less likely to try it again in the future.

If the burning lingers for more than a few days, you might want to visit a doctor and see if he can prescribe something to help with the burning and to make sure it’s not something more serious.

Let me know how it goes! If you need any anal toys, I recommend NS Novelties’ Anal Training Kit (but there are tons of products on the market that are safe and effective).

Best always,

Jacky St. James

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Jacky St. James hails from the East Coast, graduating with a BA in Drama and Anthropology and is a multiple award winning adult writer and director for New Sensations. She is known for a wide-range of films from romantic comedies to edgier all-sex releases with her most acclaimed titles being: Torn, The Friend Zone, Power and Control, Love is a Dangerous Game, The Submission of Emma Marx, and Dear Abby. Torn, her most successful film to date, went on to receive Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Couples’ Release, and Best Screenplay award wins during the 2012 award season. During her career in adult, Jacky has been an advocate of couple's-oriented pornography and has been a guest speaker at UC - Santa Barbara, UCLA, AEE, XBIZ 360 and has been featured in several popular mainstream publications including Jezebel, Slate, and the Examiner. Jacky shares pictures, clips, and stories about her successes and debacles as a woman working within the adult industry on her website: From? An east coast, white-bred, conservative town Age? 36 Fav. Food? Sushi or Pizza! Although I will eat just about anything. Fav. Alcoholic Drink? I am not a drinker, but when I do drink, it's usually Chocolate wine! Fav. Book? Bright Shiny Morning by James Frey. I also am a fan of We Need to Talk about Kevin, The Count of Monte Cristo, and the Complete Works of Shakespeare Fav. Movie? It's a toss up between Miracle (about the 1980 US Hockey team defeating the Soviets) or Shawshank Redemption (which was cinematic perfection). One Fun Fact? I have a severe allergy to cooking. I'm working through it.

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