Honey, So…I’m Thinking About Becoming A Porn Star…

I have been doing nude modeling for a year now and would really like to expand and shoot porn. I don’t even know where to start in regards to telling my boyfriend. I was nude modeling before we started going out, so he was OK with that. I’m not sure how he would react to me being with another guy if I did porn. Any advice?

Jen, 20, OH

 

Jen,

Provided you are of legal age to pursue a career in adult, I think you should first take into consideration the fact that your boyfriend may not be supportive of your decision. If he isn’t, have you asked yourself whether you are willing to risk your relationship over it? Is working in adult more important to you than your relationship? There is no right answer to this question and it’s completely fine if you choose adult over your boyfriend. I just want you to approach this situation as realistically as possible and understand that the percentage of non-industry people who are completely comfortable and confident with their partner working in front of the camera inside of the industry is incredibly small.

Secondly, I’d research exactly what working in adult entails and what kind of career you would be interested in. What is your main reason to pursue a career in adult? Are you doing it for the right reasons for you in the long run?

Finally, once you’ve answered all of the relevant questions within yourself and weighed the risks, I’d let him know your reasons for why pursuing an adult career is important for you and give him the opportunity to share his opinion about it. The more confident you are with your own decision, the better equipped you will be at communicating that to him.

However, make sure you don’t hold back any details. Don’t sugarcoat. If you plan on ‘doing it all’ in adult (gang bangs, double penetration, etc.) let him know those are your intentions. It is better to lay it all on the table and gauge one’s response than trying to sugarcoat now and pay for it later.

I really wish you the best of luck. Maybe we’ll be working together one day!

Jacky
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About The Author

Jacky St. James hails from the East Coast, graduating with a BA in Drama and Anthropology and is a multiple award winning adult writer and director for New Sensations.

She is known for a wide-range of films from romantic comedies to edgier all-sex releases with her most acclaimed titles being: Torn, The Friend Zone, Power and Control, Love is a Dangerous Game, The Submission of Emma Marx, and Dear Abby. Torn, her most successful film to date, went on to receive Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Couples’ Release, and Best Screenplay award wins during the 2012 award season.

During her career in adult, Jacky has been an advocate of couple’s-oriented pornography and has been a guest speaker at UC – Santa Barbara, UCLA, AEE, XBIZ 360 and has been featured in several popular mainstream publications including Jezebel, Slate, and the Examiner.

Jacky shares pictures, clips, and stories about her successes and debacles as a woman working within the adult industry on her website: missjackystjames.com

From? An east coast, white-bred, conservative town

Age? 36

Fav. Food? Sushi or Pizza! Although I will eat just about anything.

Fav. Alcoholic Drink? I am not a drinker, but when I do drink, it’s usually Chocolate wine!

Fav. Book? Bright Shiny Morning by James Frey. I also am a fan of We Need to Talk about Kevin, The Count of Monte Cristo, and the Complete Works of Shakespeare

Fav. Movie? It’s a toss up between Miracle (about the 1980 US Hockey team defeating the Soviets) or Shawshank Redemption (which was cinematic perfection).

One Fun Fact? I have a severe allergy to cooking. I’m working through it.

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