Periods Aren’t the Only Thing Complicating a Swinger’s Lifestyle…

-Advertisement-

My wife and I are swingers, fairly new to the lifestyle and for the most part we’re completely comfortable.  The one exception is the time of the month that she’s hormonal.  I’m always trying to let her know she’s the one true one for me and that it’s just sex and has nothing to do with love, but yet she still gets jealous from time to time.  Is there anything I can do to let her know I love her and she has no reason to be jealous?

Aaron, CA, 31

 

Aaron,

I would venture to say that if she is feeling insecure during her period, she’s probably feeling insecure other times of the month as well. Just because some women become emotional during their menstrual cycle, doesn’t mean that those feelings are not genuine, or based in truth. I would recommend talking to her at a time where she appears to be more secure with your lifestyle and ask her why she is feeling particularly confident.

While jealousy is a natural emotion to feel, especially among people in open relationships, it should not be overlooked or ignored. I’m glad you are willing to address this instead of gloss it over. Her jealousy could be a manifestation of her own challenges with embracing this lifestyle. It could be a reflection of her own insecurities and shortcomings. It could be a deeper seeded issue that stems as far back as childhood. That being said, for your relationship to reach an ultimate place of trust and acceptance, you need to get to the root of why she is feeling insecure. Chances are, if you can work through this bump in the road and come to a solid understanding of the problem, your relationship will be stronger for it. However, be aware of the fact that addressing the issue might require more than simply providing verbal assurance – it might also require an adaptation to your current lifestyle. Are you OK with that? Are you OK with setting different ground rules?

You may want to consider taking a temporary break from swinging while you work through these issues and then slowly integrate it back into your lives. Once you both have a solid foundation of trust within your relationship, you’ll be far better equipped at enjoying the benefits of being swingers. If not, then you’re basically just putting a band-aid over a bullet hole and eventually…the dam is gonna break.

Let me know how it goes!

Jacky

missjackystjames.com

twitter.com/jackystjames

Want to ask Jacky a question about love, sex, relationships, porn or the adult industry? Click here to submit your questions!

-Advertisement-

Related posts

Charlotte Stokely Wins All-Girl Performer of the Year at 2021 AVN Awards

By Rising Star PR 3rd Consecutive Win Gives AVN Hall of Famer Unprecedented 12 G/G POY...

Lauren Phillips Gets a Night to Remember in Her Blacked Raw Debut

Monday, January 25th, 2020Lauren PhillipsFOR IMMEDIATE RELEASELauren Phillips Gets a Night to Remember in Her...

You may also Like

Share this post

Avatar
Jacky StJameshttp://missjackystjames.com
Jacky St. James hails from the East Coast, graduating with a BA in Drama and Anthropology and is a multiple award winning adult writer and director for New Sensations. She is known for a wide-range of films from romantic comedies to edgier all-sex releases with her most acclaimed titles being: Torn, The Friend Zone, Power and Control, Love is a Dangerous Game, The Submission of Emma Marx, and Dear Abby. Torn, her most successful film to date, went on to receive Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Couples’ Release, and Best Screenplay award wins during the 2012 award season. During her career in adult, Jacky has been an advocate of couple's-oriented pornography and has been a guest speaker at UC - Santa Barbara, UCLA, AEE, XBIZ 360 and has been featured in several popular mainstream publications including Jezebel, Slate, and the Examiner. Jacky shares pictures, clips, and stories about her successes and debacles as a woman working within the adult industry on her website: missjackystjames.com From? An east coast, white-bred, conservative town Age? 36 Fav. Food? Sushi or Pizza! Although I will eat just about anything. Fav. Alcoholic Drink? I am not a drinker, but when I do drink, it's usually Chocolate wine! Fav. Book? Bright Shiny Morning by James Frey. I also am a fan of We Need to Talk about Kevin, The Count of Monte Cristo, and the Complete Works of Shakespeare Fav. Movie? It's a toss up between Miracle (about the 1980 US Hockey team defeating the Soviets) or Shawshank Redemption (which was cinematic perfection). One Fun Fact? I have a severe allergy to cooking. I'm working through it.
-Advertisement-
Periods Aren't the Only Thing Complicating a Swinger's Lifestyle...
'

Most popular

Charlotte Stokely Wins All-Girl Performer of the Year at 2021 AVN Awards

By Rising Star PR 3rd Consecutive Win Gives AVN Hall of Famer Unprecedented 12 G/G POY...

Lauren Phillips Gets a Night to Remember in Her Blacked Raw Debut

Monday, January 25th, 2020Lauren PhillipsFOR IMMEDIATE RELEASELauren Phillips Gets a Night to Remember in Her...

Casey Kisses Wins Coveted XBIZ ‘Trans Performer of the Year’ Award

By Kristel Penn LAS VEGAS, NV - Performer and camming powerhouse, Casey Kisses, won the prestigious...

Jamie Jett Returns to JerkMate TV Tonight

By Honey House PR One of porn’s most exciting new faces will perform a special all-girl...

Inked Hottie Lara Ryan

Inked Hottie Lara Ryan comes to us from the sunny state of California and most...

Inked Awards Nominations Closing

By Rising Star PR Online Voting Starts January 29 VENICE, CA – After nearly a month of...
-Advertisement-
4 125×125 banners
4 125×125 banners
4 125×125 banners

Interviews

Tattooed Babe Rocky Emerson Clear Chair

Two on One with Rocky Emerson

Interview by Burghcpl4fun We are so excited to bring this interview with a tattooed babe and host for our 2021 Inked Awards, Rocky Emerson, to...
Tattooed Starlet Siege Breakher

Interview: Tattooed Trans Porn Starlet Siege Breakher

Siege Breakher sits down for a steamy interview with InkedAngels I sat down for a video chat with the eponymous...
Julia Epiphany New Car

Interview: Tattooed Goddess Julia Epiphany

Inked Babe Julia Epiphany Sits Down with Kiersten Bunnz for This Steamy Interview! Canadian-born with dual Spanish citizenship, Julia is a...

Interview: Tattooed Trans Pornstar Beauty Lisa Lace

Originally a software engineer (yes, she's a huge geek), Lisa transitioned to porn and brothel work about three years...

Two on One with Inked Pornstar Britney Amber

Interview by Burghcpl4fun Thank you to Tanya Tate and Star Factory PR for the opportunity to talk with the beautiful blonde bombshell that is inked...

Camgirl Spotlight